https://alejandrocarbajo.com/ Self-understanding, life direction and personal coherence—often beginning with the ordinary moments that reveal more than they seem. By Alejandro Carbajo. en © 2026 Alejandro Carbajo Thu, 30 Jul 2026 07:00:00 +0200 https://alejandrocarbajo.com/social-card.png https://alejandrocarbajo.com/ https://alejandrocarbajo.com/out-of-autopilot/ https://alejandrocarbajo.com/out-of-autopilot/ Thu, 30 Jul 2026 07:00:00 +0200 A movement away from living by default—toward self-understanding, chosen direction and personal coherence. The practical path, honest boundaries and a five-minute way to begin. https://alejandrocarbajo.com/why-does-my-life-not-feel-like-mine/ https://alejandrocarbajo.com/why-does-my-life-not-feel-like-mine/ Mon, 27 Jul 2026 10:47:00 +0200 Sort the commitments you chose, inherited, accepted as required for now or kept through momentum. Reclaim authorship without assuming the whole life is wrong. https://alejandrocarbajo.com/how-do-i-find-direction-in-life/ https://alejandrocarbajo.com/how-do-i-find-direction-in-life/ Mon, 27 Jul 2026 09:52:00 +0200 Choose a working direction for this season, shape active commitments, filter new opportunities and review what ordinary experience teaches you. https://alejandrocarbajo.com/how-do-i-know-what-my-values-are/ https://alejandrocarbajo.com/how-do-i-know-what-my-values-are/ Mon, 27 Jul 2026 09:44:00 +0200 Find your values in real tradeoffs, meaningful costs, emotional signals and repeated choices. A practical audit that keeps conclusions revisable and context visible. https://alejandrocarbajo.com/how-do-i-understand-myself/ https://alejandrocarbajo.com/how-do-i-understand-myself/ Mon, 27 Jul 2026 09:24:00 +0200 Build a revisable inner map from identity, values, needs, patterns and ordinary choices. A practical method for collecting evidence before accepting a label. https://alejandrocarbajo.com/i-dont-know-what-i-want-in-life/ https://alejandrocarbajo.com/i-dont-know-what-i-want-in-life/ Mon, 27 Jul 2026 08:54:00 +0200 Separate chosen wants from inherited expectations, use an ordinary Tuesday as evidence and test one direction without redesigning your whole life. https://alejandrocarbajo.com/what-is-personal-coherence/ https://alejandrocarbajo.com/what-is-personal-coherence/ Mon, 27 Jul 2026 07:45:00 +0200 A coherent life is one in which who you are, what you value, what you want and how you live point in the same direction. A practical definition, concrete examples, the coherence gap and a five-minute check. https://alejandrocarbajo.com/am-i-addicted-to-my-phone/ https://alejandrocarbajo.com/am-i-addicted-to-my-phone/ Sat, 25 Jul 2026 12:00:00 +0000 A quiz can’t tell you and neither can I — “addicted” is a clinical word and I’m not a clinician. But the question underneath is answerable: what the habit is doing for you, what it actually costs, and the honest line where this belongs with a professional rather than an app. https://alejandrocarbajo.com/do-app-blockers-work/ https://alejandrocarbajo.com/do-app-blockers-work/ Sat, 25 Jul 2026 11:00:00 +0000 An honest answer from someone who builds the other thing. Why blockers have a great first week and a bad second month, when a wall is genuinely the right tool, and the one thing a blocker can never see: the job the habit is doing. https://alejandrocarbajo.com/why-i-scroll-at-night/ https://alejandrocarbajo.com/why-i-scroll-at-night/ Sat, 25 Jul 2026 10:00:00 +0000 The late scroll isn’t keeping you from sleep. It’s buying back the only hours of the day nobody else had a claim on — which is why removing the phone moves the night shift into your head instead of ending it. https://alejandrocarbajo.com/the-blend/ https://alejandrocarbajo.com/the-blend/ Sat, 25 Jul 2026 09:00:00 +0000 Screen-time reports count the minutes. They can’t see what the scroll landed on — and that’s the half that actually cost you. Why divided attention takes down the activity underneath it, and the one question that gets a half back. https://alejandrocarbajo.com/manifesto/ https://alejandrocarbajo.com/manifesto/ Fri, 17 Jul 2026 09:00:00 +0000 You already decided not to. Your hand did it anyway. A field note on the job a habit is doing for you, the ten seconds between impulse and action, and the second half of the question: were you there?