CURRENT POSITION: UNCONFIRMED
Alejandro Carbajo helps people understand themselves, clarify what they genuinely want, and build a life that fits who they are—so they can stop living by default.
Most of us were handed a destination before anyone asked where we wanted to go.
Where does your life not match?01 · THE COHERENCE GAP
THE ONE THAT ACTUALLY COSTS
The distance between what matters to you and the life you are actually living. Everybody has one. It tells you where to look.
Connection
You love them on paper.
Three rescheduled calls
Health
Bought in January. Still by the door.
A gym bag by the door
Creative work
Reactive won again. It usually does.
An inbox
Presence
You were in the room. You weren’t in the room.
Dinner, second screen
Honesty
Cheaper today. Expensive later.
“Yeah, all good”
No productivity system has ever shown you this column. It’s the one that decides how the life actually feels from the inside. A gap isn’t proof you’re a fraud—it’s a reading. It shows where your map, your circumstances and your calendar stopped pointing the same way. Closing that distance is alignment. The result is a coherent life.
02 · THE INNER MAP
THE THING YOU NAVIGATE BY
Your inner map is your evolving understanding of your identity, values, passions, purpose, goals and chosen direction. Five questions, answered better over time.
Health is not the meaning of life. It is part of the capacity to be present for it. Capacity for presence, defined →
03 · THE TOOLKIT
WHERE THE WORLDVIEW BECOMES WORK
Notice the pattern. Recover your choice. One of them is on the stores today.
A digital detox that takes nothing away.
A digital detox app that blocks nothing, counts nothing and scores nothing. You keep the map. You delete the app.
WHAT IT REFUSES TO DO · block an app, count your hours, or score your screen time. There is no streak and no number anywhere that summarises your behaviour.
Screens: the real app, App Store listing, September 2026.
Also in the portfolio: Agent Life (live agent software), Aftertide (in redevelopment), Moritura (in development), Encauce and Lastfold (specification stage). Nothing unreleased is claimed as released. Every state, on the portfolio page →
Awareness tools support reflection; they do not replace qualified medical or mental-health care.
04 · THE WRITING
FIELD NOTES
Starts from the questions people actually type. Ends with something concrete enough to use.
“Why does my life not feel like mine?”
Sort the commitments you chose, inherited, accepted for now or kept through momentum. Reclaim authorship without redesigning everything.
RUN THE OWNERSHIP CHECK ↗
“How do I find direction in life?”
Choose a direction for this season, give commitments one job, decide what is not now and review the ordinary evidence.
WRITE THE DIRECTION BRIEF ↗
“How do I know what my values are?”
Look at real tradeoffs, meaningful costs and repeated choices. Turn an admirable word into a value you can actually test.
RUN THE VALUES AUDIT ↗
“How do I understand myself?”
Build a revisable inner map from identity, values, needs and repeated choices. Observe first; accept labels later.
BUILD THE INNER MAP ↗
“I don’t know what I want in life.”
Separate what feels chosen from what feels inherited, use an ordinary Tuesday as evidence and test one direction without redesigning your whole life.
FIND A DIRECTION ↗
“What is personal coherence?”
When who you are, what you value, what you want and how you live point in the same direction—and what to do when they do not.
READ THE DEFINITION ↗
“Why do I scroll at night?”
Because the last hour is the only one nobody else had a claim on. Which is exactly why “just go to bed” bounces off it.
READ THE NIGHT SHIFT ↗
“Am I addicted to my phone?”
Usually the wrong question. The better one is what the phone is doing for you at the exact moment you reach for it.
READ THE HONEST ANSWER ↗
“Do app blockers work?”
For about eleven days. Then you learn the passcode by heart. Blocking treats the symptom and insults the person.
READ THE VERDICT ↗
“Why does doing two things feel like doing neither?”
Because it is. The cost was never the minutes—it’s the thing that quietly didn’t happen.
READ THE BLEND ↗
